"CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)" (ccpbb)
05/18/2016 at 05:34 • Filed to: None
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"CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)" (ccpbb)
05/18/2016 at 05:34 • Filed to: None | 5
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LONG ish UPDATE on my non existent romantic life. Giulia for your time...
I was at Senior Ball...in a really uncomfortable mood, floating around whatever group of people I knew, and having conversations with them rather than dancing. Near the end of the dance, I complimented someone’s hair...and then she asked me to dance. Out of a bit of shock and me being awkward, I said no and tried to make an excuse on being a bit of an stoic person. I ended up saying yes and we danced. Uh...the music fed me energy...and I got funky. We enjoyed the dancing. I did not know who she was and I had never crossed paths with her. We hung out in completely different friend groups..that were both quirky and weird.
We talked while we were on the dance floor. She does go to my high school, but in a independent study capacity. She’s really cute and has a great personality. I even asked her for her number...and we exchanged numbers.
I hung out with her the next day and tried to plan out a small bike ride with her...but that didn’t really work as she hadn’t ridden in years and the bike was a wee too big. My back brake seized up...and had to be jury rigged. So we ditched the bikes in her yard and took a walk. We went around her neighborhood and talked about random stuff and asked about each other. I found out she’s a really shy religious person and I’m the kind of person who goes head to head to someone. I’m really being cautious and I don’t want to hurt her or alienate her with how I can be a bad person...I don’t know...perhaps it’s the small slice of me who feeds off revenge and failures of people whom I detest crossing paths with the part of me that is a nice human being who is more than willing to help others in need whether it’s my grandmother or some kid who I’m tutoring at the local library.
I feel so awkward talking to her while the excitement of actually talking to someone who might be interested in me is flowing through. She seems to be into me....I am into her...and I’m not in this for sex. It’s the last thing on my mind (and especially that I’ve quit porn and PMO since ball..and it is staying that way) I video chatted with her tonight. We were both awkward but we talked.
I’ve never been in something close to this since my 8th grade (I’m in my senior year of high school now). I’ve never thought of myself as attractive for anyone to date....and I’ve rarely have had the self esteem to ask someone out or stuff like that. I really want this to go well...but I might be the inherently weak link within this entire thing. Aaahhh fuck.
Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 05:54 |
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You absolutely need to learn to relax. You also need to see things from her perspective. She’s probably more nervous than you. You’re just too nervous to see it.
Protip: Do not bring up sex or porn with her as you will go down trailing fire.
TractorPillow
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 06:15 |
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Confidence goes a long way. Who cares if you think you’re “attractive” or not. Act like you’re worth dating and you will be (coming from a guy who has been successfully married to a girl out of my league for 5 years). You’ll look back one day and be like “what was I so worried about? I’m awesome!”
Tapas
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 06:16 |
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Dude if she hung out with you and talked to for a while like that, she is comfortable with you and sees something in you.
Relax and be yourself. Don’t think too much and you’ll be fine :)
Flavien Vidal
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 06:39 |
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lol it reminds me of myself when I was 14 or 15 :)
Damn was I awkward back then haha... Stressing the fuck out anytime I felt some girl was potentially interested in me.
all I can tell you is to relax, bring out subject you enjoy talking about and share that with her. You’ll fell confortable talking about something you know... Don’t monopolize the conversation subjects and let her do the same things, ask quesitons, but mostly listen. Then go to a little party with her get a bit drunk and find some alone time :)
Worked pretty well for me... Though first time I met my now-wife, I only saw her bottom. Her head was in the toilet and she was puking... So don’t push the “drinking” thing too far either :)
Stapleface
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 06:41 |
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Having nerves about it just shows that you're human and that you care. This is a good thing. She liked you enough to exchange numbers and hang out with you, so it's pretty obvious she thinks you're a person worth knowing. Just try to relax and be yourself. And honestly, the sex part isn't all that people make it out to be. Finding someone you are comfortable and get along with trumps the physical aspect always.
themanwithsauce - has as many vehicles as job titles
> TractorPillow
05/18/2016 at 08:58 |
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+1 this.
Never ever EVER tell yourself someone can’t find you attractive. You are basically taking yourself out of the race and not even giving it a chance. Also.....well it’s kinda the cowardly, safe way out. Why risk it when you can just say you’re not attractive and move on? I date girls I consider WAY out of my league (thank you body image/self loathing issues) and sometimes wonder if its real while they go all “YAY! HE PICKED ME! :D” .....life is strange sometimes.
Buckle up. Enjoy this ride.
DanimalHouse
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/18/2016 at 09:40 |
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Budding relationship?!?!
Good luck man! Enjoy getting to know her, and treat her well!!
Chris_K_F drives an FR-Slow
> Flavien Vidal
05/18/2016 at 10:57 |
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Man, I really wish I could go back in time to when I was in junior high/high school knowing what I know now. In retrospect, things were way easier with girls back then than I thought. haha
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CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
> Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief
05/18/2016 at 20:16 |
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I will not mention it....and part of the thing is with NoFap is that you reset your mind from those things. The last thing I need is to be talking with someone about it, with her or anyone else.
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Flynorcal: pilot, offshore sailor, car racer and panty thief
> CCC (formerly CyclistCarCoexist)
05/19/2016 at 04:33 |
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I said don’t talk about sex with the girl. Dont Talk About It. Quit this “reset your brain” shit as she’ll reset hers in a hurry if she thinks you’re for one second only interested in her as a person. If you PC yourself to where she doesn’t feel desired on a base level, she’ll leave for the first asshole that does because he brings some kind of passion into it, even if it’s just drama and she knows it.